Don't Lie To Me.
Lying, to me, is an insult and disrespectful. If you have any regard me for, you would be honest. Even if you feared my wrath, you'd tell me the truth because you valued our relationship. Feared my wrath? What in the world could I possibly do to you? What would my wrath entail? Glaring at you over the table? Frowning in your direction every once in a while?
You can lie without actually saying anything. Omission of truth is the same as denying it. Hiding the truth is lying.
Lying, to me, is a form of betrayal. I believed you when I should not have. You betrayed my trust in you. Now, I will think twice about ever trusting you again.
Being lied to makes me tired. I spent energy believing in what you said and did contrary to my own eyes and instincts. I wasted my time convincing myself I was wrong. Now, when I hear you speak, I will have to sort through every word out of your mouth, looking for the lies.
Being lied to really, really hurts me. You've hurt me in a way I've not been hurt in a long time. I expected better of you. I thought you thought more of me, that I would be friend enough to understand. I thought you friend and instead you deceived. Friends don't deceive.
Should I still count you among my friends?
Posted by Marmy on September 19, 2006 05:11 AM
Comments
Perhaps you should consider the intention behind it?
Posted by: Concerned at September 21, 2006 01:27 PM
I'll be your friend.
Posted by: mukey at September 21, 2006 02:21 PM
"Perhaps you should consider the intention behind it?"
And what would the intention behind it be? How could it be in any way positive? The lies told were in no way to protect me. Just the opposite in fact, the lies told were to conceal the truth from me for as long as possible. And to make matters worse, 2 other friends were dragged into the web of secrecy and thus, were forced to lie to me too.
Being upfront and honest from the start would have been a much much better thing.
Posted by: Marmy at September 21, 2006 04:33 PM